Ways I've beat discouragement

It's safe to say that most influencers go through what I like to call "funks", and not only influencers like my self...EVERYONE goes through these moments.

I really love writing up lifestyle posts, because it allows me to breakthrough and give my honest advice and experience on certain situations I've gone through or still going through. It's common to think that bloggers live the picture perfect life (just as aesthetically pleasing as their Instagram feeds display). Truth is, it's a lot harder - especially living your life through so many social platforms.

I've gathered up some ways that have helped me beat discouragement, and live my happiest.

I often receive many messages from bloggers and influencers who are just starting up their own platforms, but they feel discouraged and hesitant because of so many reasons...and I am right here with you!

Never compare
I truly believe this is one of the hardest things not to do....especially when your first starting out your blog, a new job, etc. This also exists after years of doing a certain something, and not reaching the goals you've wanted to accomplish. It's very easy for us to compare to others that may be achieving things at a faster timing, or may be working with brands that you've always wanted to work alongside with, or even in following! Following is just a statistical number, and it does not verify the quality of the content you are producing.

What I've learned? Never compare, always assess. Instead of comparing, take notice in what others may be doing that helps them move forward in their goals. Look at the comparison as an example, not a road block.

Do you, boo
As funny as this sounds, it's something I repeat myself on the daily. It's when we start focusing on others when we forget what and why we started what we love. It's never in our place to judge how others decide to run their business and life in general. We're humans, its in our nature to judge....But in judgement, we end up finding negativity within ourselves and this is where discouragement first starts. Strictly focus on you and your craft, and you'll see how everything starts to bloom. 100% tunnel vision until you get to where you want to be- then off to check off the next goal!

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Don't be a fraud, stick to your story...
Pitching who you are and letting that shine through, whether you're a blogger, business owner, or simply someone's co-worker is key. Is selling your story (who you essentially are) always easy? Definitely not! The fear of rejection, or not being liked by everyone is a major road block for the most of us, but who we truly are is our unique print - It's what sets us apart. Sounds cliché, but never change your ideas, morals, values, likes, and dislikes because the trend tells us so. Stick to being you, always.

Pick your self up, love yourself
I often question myself a lot, just like I often double guess if this is what I should truly be doing since it's already been done over and over again. If I had to look back three years and give one piece of advice to that young blogger that had no idea what she was getting into is, don't be so hard on yourself!

Whenever I get into these funks, I like to re-evaluate the journey I have come on thus far and the struggles I've had to face to get where I am today and the people I have hopefully inspired! I am an avid believer that everything in life is timed and reasoned. Whether negative or positive situations come our way, they're all to teach us a learning lesson and help us grow as people. And the honest truth is, you're going to let your self down at times, and I'm here to tell you that it's okay. Don't let your discouragement stop your day 1 goal - no matter how long it takes.

Social media is a cruel world especially if you live in it daily and make a job out of it, but its also a beautiful one that (if used properly) can open SO many doors in endless ways. Just remember, they ain't you boo, and no one will ever be.



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